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In this age of trashing WASP males for all the woes of society, I think we ought to
step back a bit
and consider the fate of the poor good looking guys who just can't seem to go anyplace without
women hitting on them. Yes I know the problems of men must pall next to the plight of women,
but in the interest of fairness I think we should consider the male's dilemma.
It embarrassed everybody. Kind of a girl's version of being 'hung up on
herself,' I guess. It shocked the rest of us who were younger and hadn't even started serious
dating yet. I remember wondering to myself
how the rest of us guys were ever going to get a girl if even the homeliest kept throwing themselves
at the few guys around like this. Fortunately her comment put an end to their visit and they left.
It soon became obvious the object of all the attention was Dave. The stares, smiles and looks we got were so inviting, something quite out of the ordinary for us everyday type males. The experience was similar to something we usually only saw on television, or in other media, when pretty girls try to sell something in the advertising. I certainly didn't recall them being like this in real life, smiling and so friendly for no reason.
I don't think I was fully aware at the time that I was in a different world. I'm sure I
alluding to being in the right place at the right time. We did feel uncomfortable, though. All my
preconceived notions of the females reserved nature were eradicated. I swear, every single
woman in that establishment, in the hour or so we were there, made some attempt to come by our table.
Fortunately there is a degree of kindness in our society that allows this subsequent
with our ego. There doesn't seem to be too much trashing of the male appearance unless we put it
to the test and approach a female directly. Our social norms employ women to be more aware of
appearance and they'll often tell you point-blank what they think if you do. Most of us find our
boundaries in adolescence and learn not to stray too far from our allotted place in the physical
hierarchy of our peers. The first rule we learn is that women make their intentions known first.
Somehow we're supposed to learn to translate certain gestures and nuances that indicate a willingness to communicate further. Not all of us do. Big mistake.
Maybe the most unusual aspect of the 'babe magnet' phenomenon occurs when we least expect it. I think we've all encountered a situation where we're hangin' out with a guy who we'd least expect to be a babe magnet. One guy I work with, Terry, is a clean cut individual with a strong square build. Nothing out of the ordinary, it seems. From Georgia, accent and all, he started working in our lumber yard a few months ago.
Part of our operation is an outdoor facility where we spend time stacking lumber, loading customer vehicles, etc. The first day Terry worked in that part of the facility we were swamped with women we had never seen before. At one point a car made a U-turn in the middle of the street to come into the yard. A pretty young women popped out of the car who had dozens of questions about building materials. It was fairly obvious where her focus was.
We figured Terry could take care of himself so we let him answer the questions. It's been amazing. Ever since Terry's started working the yard, we have several new customers who seem to be single, pretty women. They always seem to direct their attention to Terry.
Unfortunately there is the male ego, again, and I'm embarrassed for my kind because there are several other guys who make the mistake of thinking these women are there to see them. It's even more obvious in a situation like this where you aren't expecting a guy like Terry to exhibit the babe magnet phenomenon. These poor guys will make some inclination of interest, be it ever so subtle, and are immediately put back into their place as the intentions of the visitor become known.
It's kind of like soldiers going up against a wall and most are put down. It seems to be
part of a deep-seated biological nature that we must try. And please, you might want
your eyes for the next part: it's like we never really progressed past our
biological origins and here
we are still swimming up stream, little tail waggling gametes, trying to relinquish our genetic
The trauma of each generation as they relearn these basic premises of life is often more damaging than it need be. There's far too much corrupted behavior and frustration due to this basic form of communication breakdown. What makes it even tougher is we're supposed to learn all of this in our teenage years, mostly in school where it's a cesspool of hormonal influences. How did we ever make it out alive? Maybe this will help. Let the 'babe magnet' be an example, guys. It's not all that it's cracked up to be. Just remember to learn those nuances.
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