The Writers Voice
Redefining a Woman
When I was a little girl everyone would paint a picture of what my future should be like. They would say that I am supposed to go to school, learn to cook and clean, sew and do all those domestic duties. That way when it was time I would find a husband who made a six figure salary and I would stay home and have all of his babies. I carried this picture into my adolescent life and later into my adult life believing that this was the only way I would feel happy. The misconceptions of my youth caused me to be a bad judge of character.
the tender age of fourteen, I met the man that would
eventually father my firstborn. What I did not
know about this person was that he would control my
every move; he controlled my thoughts, my money, my
clothes, my life. I have read many stories about
women who were in abusive relationships. The sad
thing is that we all sing the same love song, we
all are looking for those father figures either for
ourselves or for our children so we mistake their
abuse for concern.
I swore that
day that it would never happen again. Every time
after that I swore it would not happen again. When
I got thrown down the flight of stairs the tears in
his eyes made me feel as if he would never
want to see me in pain again. I trusted him; I
believed that everyone else was against me no one
was for me only him. I was only a child, he was an
adult, he had spent more time in this world than
me; he knew what to expect. This man could teach me
how to be a better individual, or so I thought.
My life has been so consumed with my son, my dead-end jobs and family that I have never been able to be me. I have been unable to discover what I want to be. I can write about it but I can never make it happen. I liked the possessive characteristics in these men; it made me feel like someone cared, and as much as I hate to admit it, I used to think that it was cute to say "my man won't let me go outside." Sad but so true.
Today I have got to say that I love myself more than yesterday. I am taking a little time out to reflect on me. I cannot say that I am completely recovered from battered woman syndrome. Which is a true disorder not only in the abuser but also in the abused because we either go to another man with the same qualities or we bring those abusive behaviors into healthy relationships. If I accept who I am then it will help me find someone I am compatible with. I am not an excellent writer and I know this. I like writing, it is my therapy. I have a lot to say and just want to be heard. I am a woman in every sense of the word and that is the only thing that truly defines me.
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